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French-kissing, which some people call tongue-kissing, means that one or both people put their tongues in the other person’s mouth while kissing. Some people like French-kissing; others don’t and choose not to try it. There is no right or wrong way to French-kiss. Some people just put the tip of their tongue into the other person’s mouth. Others put more of their tongue in; still others manage to get their tongues in each other’s mouth at the same time. There aren’t any specific rules about this.

What is necking? What is petting?

Necking – or snogging, as some people call it – means having prolonged kissing sessions. Different people define petting differently. Some people use the phrase ‘petting above the waist’ or ‘light petting’ to describe a situation in which a male feels or fondles a female’s breasts. ‘Petting below the waist’, or ‘heavy petting’ means touching or rubbing the other person’s genital organs. Some people further divide petting into petting outside or over your clothes and petting inside or under your clothes.

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There are basically two answers to these questions: you can do it on your own or you can have a friend do it for you.

If you decide to have a friend do it, be sure to pick someone you can really trust or the next thing you know it will be all over school! It’s often easier to let someone else do the talking for you. But keep in mind that if you do this, you don’t have very much control over what’s being said. Suppose, for example, you want your friend only to bring up your name in a roundabout way to see how this other person reacts. Your friend may not do it exactly the way you’d like; instead, your friend might tell this other person that you’re madly in love with him or her!

For these reasons many people prefer doing it on their own. You can let someone know you like him or her by being friendly, starting conversations, going out of your way to be round that person, asking the person to go out with you, showing the person how you feel by the general way you act or simply telling the person how you feel. You can find out if a person likes you by watching to see if that person does any of these sorts of things to you.

Regardless of whether you tell the person yourself or have a friend do it for you, make sure it’s done in private and not in front of the other kids. Otherwise the person may be so embarrassed that he or she may say they don’t like you even if they really do. The other person may even stop liking you if you embarrass him or her in this way, so it’s best to do it in private.

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This kind of problem is not at all unusual among boys. It’s called retrograde ejaculation, and it happens when the semen is prevented from spurting out through the opening in the glans during ejaculation. In older men there are certain medical problems that cause retrograde ejaculation, but in boys, it usually happens when the boy is masturbating and he covers the opening in the penis as he’s about to ejaculate, as the boy who asked this question did.

‘Retrograde’ means ‘going backwards’. In retrograde ejaculation the semen can’t come out of the end of the penis, so it travels backwards down the urethra. It may be forced up the tube that leads to the bladder, which can cause the urine to be cloudy for some time afterwards. The semen may also be forced into the prostate gland. In either case there may be pain and discharge from the penis. .

In some instances the symptoms will clear up by themselves, but often a doctor’s care is needed. Although it may be embarrassing for a boy to tell the doctor that he’s been masturbating and to explain how the retrograde ejaculation happened, it’s important to see the doctor if you have pain, a milky discharge or milky urine. If the semen is forced up into the prostate gland, the tissues of the gland could become irritated and susceptible to infection. The doctor can treat such infections with antibiotics and, if necessary, with pain-killers. From this, you can see that it is not a good idea to prevent your ejaculate from coming out of the end of your penis.

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This is another increasingly common STD. The chief symptom is warts in, on, or around the sex organs. A person can have warts without knowing it. The warts may go undetected because of their location, their small size or the fact that they can disappear on their own. However, if undetected and untreated, they tend to recur. Untreated genital warts are a serious problem because they may lead to pre-cancer or cancer of the cervix. Treatment is by means of a special solution that is painted on the warts, causing them to fall off. In stubborn cases cryosurgery (freezing) or electrocautery (destroying by means of an electric current) may be necessary.

Syphilis-This is a rare disease in Britain nowadays. The symptoms appear in stages, beginning with a painless sore at the exact place where the germs entered the body. The person may not notice the sore, which will eventually disappear, but the germs remain in the body and eventually produce second stage symptoms such as a red rash, mouth sores and an ill-all-over feeling. Most cases are treated by this stage, but if untreated, the disease may progress to a third stage, which can cause serious and permanent damage to the brain, spinal cord and other organs. Treatment is by means of antibiotics, usually given by injection.

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Effectiveness Chart 1 gives you an idea of how many pregnancies occur because the method has simply failed to do its job (there are no statistics yet for the female condom).

Effectiveness Chart 1-In a group of 100 women using the method for a year, and using it absolutely correctly, exactly according to instructions, we would expect:

• none or, at most, 1 out of 100 injectable contraceptive users to become pregnant;

• 1 or, at most, 2 out of 100 combined-pill users to become pregnant;

• about 2 out of 100 mini-pill users to become pregnant;

• about 2 out of 100 diaphragm or cap users to become pregnant;

• about 2 out of 100 condom users to become pregnant;

• about 2-4 out of 100 IUD users to become pregnant;

• about 3-4 out of 100 contraceptive foam users to become pregnant;

• about 7 out of 100 Natural Family Planning users to become pregnant.

Of course, people make mistakes. Very few people use their methods absolutely correctly and properly all the time. So in a typical group of 100 women, there would undoubtedly be more pregnancies than the figures in Chart 1 would indicate. With the IUD and injectable contraceptive, we wouldn’t see more pregnancies than indicated in the chart because the IUD is inserted and removed by a doctor and the shots are also given by a doctor. The woman doesn’t have to do anything. So there’s little chance of her using the method improperly and, therefore, little chance of a pregnancy occurring due to an error on the user’s part with these methods.

But with methods like NFP, the condom, cap, diaphragm and spermicides, people can and do make mistakes. For instance, people make mistakes in their NFP charts and have sex during the fertile time; they forget to put enough spermicide in the cap; they insert the diaphragm improperly or remove it too soon; they neglect to use a condom each and every time they have sex; they allow too much time to pass between insertion of the spermicide and intercourse; and so on. Since people can and do make these sorts of mistakes, we could expect a greater number of pregnancies in a typical group of 100 women than indicated in Chart 1.

With the pill, there’d also be a greater number of pregnancies than indicated in Chart 1 because women can and do forget to take all their pills on schedule. However, women who choose the pill as their method are usually the types who are good at remembering to take pills, and they make pill-taking part of their daily routine. Besides, with the pill people needn’t interrupt their love-making to deal with contraception and they don’t have to refrain from intercourse for a certain number of days each month as NFP users must. Moreover, all a woman has to do with the pill is to swallow it, whereas, some of the other methods, especially NFP, are more involved and therefore more open to error. So you can see that pill-users are generally less likely to have unplanned pregnancies due to errors on the user’s part than people who use the diaphragm, cap, condom, foam, or NFP.

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